Wednesday, March 2, 2011

How to really eliminate Divorce and Save Marriages and Families in America

I used to think, when I was a student at the University of Utah, majoring in Psychology and Interpersonal Communication many years ago, that teaching couples to communicate effectively would be a huge help in reducing divorce rates.

I have come to realize in my studies of the Gospels of Jesus Christ, and from many of the teachings of the general authority leaders in the Church I am a member of, which is the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, that there is nothing in the teachings of our Lord about learning to communicate better. There is nothing about learning how to handle money better, or any of the other many problems that couples will divorce over. 

No. I believe with all my heart that if people learned to follow the teachings of Christ, to Love God with all their heart, might, mind and strength, and to love thy neighbor as thyself, the two great commandments on which all other commandments hang, and to over come pride, and envy and selfishness, to have charity the pure love of Christ, which is the greatest of all the attributes of God, to really understand and live the Beattitudes that Christ taught us from his Sermon on the Mount, to strive to live with faith, hope and charity, to be patient and long suffering, all the kinds of attributes that Christ exemplified during his time on Earth, we would eliminate the majority of divorces and strengthen families significantly, and thus eliminate a huge amount of the ills of our society.

I realize that this is easier talked about than done,  but we have to start some where.  I have been through a divorce and lost the confidence of my children.  All because of my not following the teachings of the Savior when that all happened.  I cannot change the past, but I can shape the future.  I am in a very happy marriage right now, but it is only happy, I have found, because of the fact that my sweetheart and I strive to live the teachings of the Savior.  We are not perfect at it by a long shot, but we are trying.  And if we ever mess up and make a mistake, we forgive each other, gird up our loins and go forward with faith in the Atonement of Jesus Christ.  It brings us true hope, happiness and joy.  I do not know a single person who does not strive to follow the teachings of Christ, who has lasting happiness and joy.  They have moments of pleasure and temporary happy moments along the way, but long lasting?  I have not seen it.

What do you think about these ideas?  Would love to read your comments. Thanks for reading.

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